Obituary of Jacques Robert Delancy
Jacques “Jack” Robert Delancy, 72, a resident of Cape Coral, FL for the past three years, formerly of Danbury, CT, passed away Wednesday, December 13, 2023 in Estero, FL. He was born June 28, 1951 in New Milford, CT to Samuel “David” and Eliane Delancy, now deceased.
Jack was of the Christian faith. He wore the roles of son, brother, husband, father, father-in-law, poppy, brother- in-law and uncle like a badge of honor and strived to be the very best at all of them. From the day he met his wife Helen, he put her on a pedestal. It was his absolute pleasure to treat her like the princess he believed her to be, and for all 48 years of their marriage, it was obvious that this was his favorite role. He was also a doting and caring father. He was always there for whatever his children needed. He passed on his knowledge, skills and life lessons, which shaped and influenced the people they became. His family's happiness is what brought him the most joy and he would do absolutely anything for them. He was truly one of a kind.
Jack was also a decorated FDNY Firefighter and Fire Marshal. He was brave and unyielding as he would run into a burning building while others were running out. As a Fire Marshal, he loved figuring out the puzzle of how a fire started and if the fire was intentionally set, he relished the chase of catching the bad guy to hold them responsible. A defining moment in his career was the horrific attacks in New York City on 9/11. He was truly a hero, immediately rushing down to assist in the recovery efforts. He tirelessly worked on the pile to locate victims buried within the rubble. Days later, he worked in the morgue and had the unimaginable responsibility of identifying and cataloguing the bodies of those that perished. He sacrificed, and did a job that most couldn't, so that the families of lost loved ones could have some peace and solace. Unfortunately, he sacrificed more than he knew, as he was exposed to toxins that eventually contributed to early onset Alzheimer's/Dementia and ultimately took his life. Those who know him would all agree that knowing the full extent of his sacrifice would not have changed his actions.
Some fun facts about Jack, he was an amazing chef and made the most mouth-watering meals for the family to enjoy during the holidays. To eat his filet mignon on Christmas was a gift unto itself. First, because it was the best you will ever eat and second because it saved his family from his wife’s cooking. She is the ultimate social butterfly; most years she would get distracted and inevitably burn the green bean casserole....the one dish that was her sole responsibility. There may or may not have been several occasions where it was beneficial to have a fireman close at hand. Other fun facts about Jack, he was like a walking encyclopedia, there wasn’t any topic that he didn’t know something about. He was also a “Jack” of all trades, pun intended. He knew how to build or fix almost anything. He often used his skills to help family and friends with repairing their vehicles, fixing their houses or just being an extra set of helping hands. He always did these things without any expectations of recognition or reciprocation. He enjoyed riding his Harley and playing golf with his family and friends, especially his brother-in-laws. He also had some other “gifts”. He laughed hardily at his own jokes that no one ever understood, he could fall asleep mid-sentence pretty much anywhere, and let's just say he ran like “nobody was watching”, bless his heart!
He is survived by his loving wife, Helen Delancy of Cape Coral, FL; children, Robert Delancy and his wife Diana of Staten Island, NY, Danielle Levy and her husband Mark of Salisbury Mills, NY, and Kimberly Bryan and her husband Nick of New Milford, CT; brothers, Jean "JD" Delancy and his wife Candace of Mechanicsville, MD, and James "Jim" Delancy of New Milford, CT; sister, Michele Delancy of New Milford, CT; grandchildren, Ashley Delancy, Mark Levy, Ryan Delancy-Hughes, Brandon Levy, Lia Levy, Grayson Delancy, and Carter Bryan; in-laws Patricia and Alan Sliman and Jack and Celia Basile; as well as many nephews, nieces, cousins and friends whose lives he touched.
Funeral services will be held in Danbury, CT. Family and friends are invited to attend the Memorial Service on Thursday, December 28th, 2023, from 6pm to 8pm at Cornell Memorial Home in Danbury, CT. The Memorial Mass will be held on Friday, December 29th, 2023, at 9am at St. Gregory the Great Church in Danbury, CT with the Burial services following directly after at St. Peter Cemetery in Danbury, CT.
Memorial Contributions in memory of Jacques “Jack” Robert Delancy are suggested to the Tunnels to Towers 9/11 Foundation or to Alzheimer’s Association.
Friends are invited to send condolences via the on-line guest book which can be found at www.MullinsMemorial.com.
Mullins Memorial Funeral Home & Cremation Service, Cape Coral and Cornell Memorial Home, Danbury CT are entrusted with final care.
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